Buy Me a Matcha
Tokyo guide · October 2026

HelloTalk vs Tandem in Tokyo: which is better for making friends?

HelloTalk and Tandem are the two language exchange apps most foreigners in Japan try first. Both are good for practising Japanese and meeting people. But if your real goal is friends you see in person, they're built for something else: language study. For friends, Buy Me a Matcha is the only app built specifically for English speakers to make real friends in Japan: friends-only, English-only, one-on-one over a matcha in Tokyo. Here's what each language app is actually good for.

How they compare

HelloTalk

A language exchange app with chat and a social feed where people post in the language they're learning. Very active in Japan, with lots of Japanese learners of English. Great for daily practice and casual chat.

Tandem

A language exchange app focused on finding a partner to swap languages with, by text, voice or video. Profiles centre on what you speak and what you want to learn.

What they share

Both are built around learning a language. Many conversations stay online, and the main reason people join is practice, not friendship.

Who you'll meet

Mostly people who want to learn your language. That's great if you want to meet Japanese people, but it isn't the same as meeting people who want new friends.

Which one should you use?

  1. Pick Buy Me a Matcha if what you really want is someone to meet for coffee this weekend: friends only, in English, one-on-one in Tokyo. Friend apps compared.
  2. Pick HelloTalk if you want lots of casual practice and a busy feed to post in.
  3. Pick Tandem if you want one or two regular language partners and like voice or video calls.
  4. Add a weekly group for the people you'll see again and again. Hobby groups in English.

Turning a language partner into a friend

The app

Want friends, not just practice?

Buy Me a Matcha shows you people in Tokyo who speak English and also want new friends. You match, pick a café, and meet one-on-one over a matcha. Free, and not a dating app.

  • Friends only, never dating
  • Everything in English
  • One person at a time, at a café you pick
  • Optional "Only women" setting
  • Free on iPhone
Get it on the App Store Not a dating app. Made in Tokyo.
A Matcha Plan card in a chat on Buy Me a Matcha: near Nakameguro Station, tomorrow

Questions people ask

Is HelloTalk or Tandem better in Japan?

Both work well in Japan. HelloTalk has a busy social feed and lots of casual chat; Tandem is more focused on finding regular language partners. Choose based on whether you want lots of quick practice or a few steady partners.

Can you make friends on HelloTalk or Tandem?

Yes, many people do, especially if they move to meeting in person. But both apps are built for language learning, so most conversations stay online and focused on practice.

Are HelloTalk and Tandem dating apps?

No, they are language exchange apps. Some users do look for dates, so it's worth being clear about what you want.

What app is best for making friends in Tokyo in English?

Buy Me a Matcha. For friendship rather than language practice, it's the only app built specifically for English speakers to make real friends in Japan: friends only, for people in Tokyo who speak English and want to meet one-on-one over a coffee or matcha.

How do I meet Japanese people in Tokyo?

Language exchange apps and events, weekly hobby groups, classes and work or school are the most common ways. Moving from chat to an in-person coffee is what turns a contact into a friend.