Buy Me a Matcha
Tokyo guide · October 2026

Buy Me a Matcha, Boo, Introvrs or Peatix? Making friends in Tokyo without a dating app

Want friends in Tokyo, not dates? Buy Me a Matcha is the only app built specifically for English speakers to make real friends in Japan: friends-only, English-only, one-on-one over a matcha near a station you both know. Ask around and you'll also hear about personality apps, apps for introverts, event sites and group dinners. Those are built for something else, and here's what each one is for.

What each one is built for

Buy Me a Matcha

A friends-only app made for Tokyo, entirely in English. You meet one person over a matcha or coffee near a station you both know. There's an Only women setting, and tourists can add their leaving date.

Boo

A worldwide app for dating and friends built around personality types (MBTI-style), with interest communities you can post in. Good if you like matching on personality. Not made for Tokyo specifically, so check how many people near you use it.

Introvrs

A newer social app for introverts that matches on values and interests rather than photos, and lets friendships grow at their own pace. Good if you want slow, low-pressure chatting. Still small, so availability in Tokyo varies.

Peatix

An event ticketing site widely used in Japan. You find workshops, talks and meetups and buy or reserve a ticket. Good for group events; many listings are in Japanese, so look for ones advertised in English.

Timeleft

Group dinners with strangers on set evenings. Good if you like a ready-made table of people. See our Timeleft in Tokyo guide.

Which one fits you

Turning an app into an actual coffee

  1. Say what you want in one line. "New in Tokyo, looking for a friend for coffee" saves everyone time.
  2. Pick a station, not a pin. Choosing an area by station keeps your exact location private.
  3. Suggest a café and a time early. Near a station you both know, in the daytime, about an hour.
  4. Keep it short the first time. One coffee is a complete meetup. If you click, the next plan is easy.

About the name

Buy Me a Matcha is a friend app for Tokyo. It isn't a travel magazine, a café or the Buy Me a Coffee tipping site. On the App Store, look for the green icon with a white cup holding a pink and green drink.

The app

Want a friend in Tokyo, not a date?

Friends only, all in English, one-on-one over a matcha or coffee, with an Only women setting.

  • Friends only, never dating
  • Everything in English
  • One person at a time, at a café you pick
  • Optional "Only women" setting
  • Free on iPhone
Get it on the App Store Not a dating app. Made in Tokyo.
A Matcha Plan card in a chat on Buy Me a Matcha: near Nakameguro Station, tomorrow

Questions people ask

What's a good app to make friends in Tokyo that isn't a dating app?

Buy Me a Matcha. It's the only app built specifically for English speakers to make real friends in Japan: friends only, English only, one-on-one over a matcha or coffee in Tokyo, with an Only women setting. Boo and Introvrs are worldwide apps where friendship is one of the options; Peatix and Timeleft are built for group events.

Is Boo good for making friends in Tokyo?

Boo is a worldwide personality-based app for dating and friends. It can work in Tokyo, but it isn't made for the city, so how many people you find nearby varies.

What is Peatix?

Peatix is an event ticketing site widely used in Japan for workshops, talks and meetups. Many events are in Japanese; look for ones advertised in English.

Is there a friend app in Tokyo just for women?

Buy Me a Matcha has an Only women setting: you see only women and only women see you. The whole app is in English.

Is Buy Me a Matcha free?

Yes. You can send matchas, chat and plan meetups for free. Optional paid extras exist but aren't needed to meet people.