Buy Me a Matcha
Tokyo guide · October 2026

How to make Japanese friends

Plenty of Japanese people would love an international friend, especially in Tokyo. Friendships here often start slowly and grow through shared activities and repeated meetings. Here's where to meet Japanese people, and how to turn a nice chat into a real friendship.

Where to meet Japanese people who want international friends

Language exchanges

Many Japanese people come to practise English and make foreign friends at the same time. How to find a good one.

Clubs and classes

Sports, music, cooking or art classes, where you meet through a shared interest. Social clubs in Tokyo.

University circles

If you're a student, circles (サークル) are where Japanese students socialise.

Work and coworking

Colleagues and coworking communities, especially at lunch and after-work events.

How friendships often work in Japan

Many Japanese friendships grow through doing things together repeatedly rather than one big night out. People may be polite and reserved at first, and invitations can be subtle. A second and third meeting, a shared hobby and being reliable go a long way.

What helps

  1. Suggest a specific plan. "Lunch near the station on Saturday?" is easier to say yes to than an open invitation.
  2. Be consistent. Turn up when you say you will, and keep in touch on LINE.
  3. Learn a little Japanese. Even basic phrases show interest and make people feel comfortable.
  4. Share something. Teach a recipe from home, swap music, explore each other's favourite spots.

What to avoid

The app

Meet someone new, in English

Buy Me a Matcha helps you meet new people in Tokyo one at a time over a coffee or matcha. In English, friends only, free on iPhone.

  • Friends only, never dating
  • Everything in English
  • One person at a time, at a café you pick
  • Optional "Only women" setting
  • Free on iPhone
Get it on the App Store Not a dating app. Made in Tokyo.
A Matcha Plan card in a chat on Buy Me a Matcha: near Nakameguro Station, tomorrow

Questions people ask

How can foreigners make Japanese friends?

Language exchanges, clubs and classes, university circles, international events, work and friend apps are the most common ways. Friendships usually grow through repeated meetings and shared activities.

Is it hard to make Japanese friends?

It can take longer than in some countries because people may be reserved at first, but many Japanese people, especially in Tokyo, enjoy international friendships.

Do I need to speak Japanese to make Japanese friends?

Not always. Many Japanese people in Tokyo speak English. Learning some Japanese still helps a lot.

Is there an app to meet Japanese people as friends?

Yes. Buy Me a Matcha is a friends-only app for meeting people in Tokyo one at a time in English, including English-speaking Japanese people.